What does Death Positive mean?
These are the Tenets of the Death Positive Movement:
- I believe that by hiding death and dying behind closed doors we do more harm than good to our society.
- I believe that the culture of silence around death should be broken through discussion, gatherings, art, innovation, and scholarship.
- I believe that talking about and engaging with my inevitable death is not morbid, but displays a natural curiosity about the human condition.
- I believe that the dead body is not dangerous, and that everyone should be empowered (should they wish to be) to be involved in care for their own dead.
- I believe that the laws that govern death, dying and end-of-life care should ensure that a person’s wishes are honored, regardless of sexual, gender, racial or religious identity.
- I believe that my death should be handled in a way that does not do great harm to the environment.
- I believe that my family and friends should know my end-of-life wishes, and that I should have the necessary paperwork to back-up those wishes.
- I believe that my open, honest advocacy around death can make a difference, and can change culture.
As with any movement, there are misunderstandings surrounding what the movement is and what it is NOT. Here’s a piece dispelling some of the myths about the death positive movement by defining what it is not.
What is the origin of the term death positive?
I’m lucky to know a number of advocates in the sex positive community. My understanding of sex positivity was, in part: “I’m fascinated by human sexuality and my own relationship to sex and I refuse to be ashamed of that interest.”
I was sure if there was sex positivity, there would also be death positivity. But when I did the deep dive Google search, nothing. So several years ago I asked the Order of the Good Death’s Facebook and Twitter community about why that might be. As always, you had brilliant thoughts that helped shape what the death positive movement has become.
See the original tweet here.
Who is Ernest Becker and what does he have to do with the death positive movement?
Our work at The Order is inspired by the work of anthropologist and Pulitzer Prize winning author, Ernest Becker. Learn about Becker’s work and The Denial of Death on the Ernest Becker Foundation website.
What are some ways we can use death positivity to change culture?
I’ve given you so many articles to read, so here are some videos for a break. These are two TED talks where I lay out why I think being present with the dead body, and adopting green and natural burial practices has the potential to change ourselves and the world. Watch The Corpses that Changed my Life and Recomposition and Conservation Burial.
Why are there so many women leading the movement?
You don’t have to be involved in the Death Positive movement long before you’ll notice something. We are run, and largely populated, by women. To be clear, everyone is welcome. But we’re often asked why female-identified people are so attracted to death.
My simple answer to this is that women were the death workers for thousands of years– deathcare was a domestic task. In the 20th century, men have opened funeral homes, corporitized the care of dead bodies, and taken the direct experience of death out of the hands of women. It is our belief that women wish to take back that experience.