New Video: Talking to Your Children About Death

I had planned to release a new Ask a Mortician this week, but given what happened in Connecticut and China, I thought it better to release a video about talking to your children about death. This is especially important when there is a violent death that makes them feel threatened.

 Interview I did on Girl Meets Geek on death talk with children

Mr. Roger’s piece on talking to children after a tragedy

Caitlin Doughty
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  • Bonanza Jellybean

    Caitlin, you’re so great! Thanks for the rad videos and advice. ­čÖé

  • Kristie

    You are so honest and logical yet sensitive. I don’t even have kids and this was a helpful post for me with everything that’s going on right now. Cheers to your awesomeness, and I’ll be looking forward to more of the same in your new book!

  • Car

    Rad. Thank you for posting.

  • carrie

    Caitlin, thank you so much. We just experienced two deaths in our family in three weeks’ time, and we’ve been riding the waves of questions and high emotions with our just-turned-five-year-old. Have you read the children’s book “Lifetimes”? We are finding it to be helpful in its nature-based approach and gentle rhythm. Something else that has really helped her is the Radiolab-produced short video “Whale Fall: Afterlife of a Whale”, which may seem odd, but seeing the cycle of decomposition giving sustenance to different life forms has been very therapeutic.

  • You are a good person.

  • arantxa

    Thanks very much, Caitlin. I’ve been a fan of yours and the Order’s for some time now, and this video really rang true for me today. I think it’s great advice for discussing death with children and adults alike.

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you! This was an extremely important post for everyone to hear. I am very glad you did it. You touched on something extremely important at the end. Our children are extremely impressionable and learn how to do things from the adults in their life. If we, as parents, do not handle or cope with death in healthy and safe manner how do we expect our children to do so? It is our responsibility as parents to shape them into healthy, functioning, and thriving adults. Helping our children come to understand and not fear death will help them cope with it throughout their life in a safe and healthy way for them. Without us parents to guide and teach them, our children will remain confused and develop unhealthy ways of dealing with death. These bad coping mechanisms have the potential to “leak” over into other areas of their life as they grow older. We do not want this for our children.

  • Furnacefire

    That…has got to be the MOST appropriate description I have ever heard, regarding News Media coverage of these types of things…”24 hour death porn”…piped directly into living rooms around the nation (sort of like sewage).

    Really, your videos are a great resource on a…difficult topic.

    As an aside, I’ve never had any sort of fascination (or even mild interest) in death as an industry. However, your videos are all so totally WELL DONE (not to mention really funny)…I’ve watched every one. I guess I am now…a deathling.

    Keep using that talent, you are made for this.

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